If you find yourself in the position of having to co-parent with someone it can create a lot of anxiety in your day-to-day life. Perhaps you have been forced into your current situation or have willingly accepted the challenge. Either way, it can be pretty hard to lay all of your trust into someone when it comes to the well-being of your child.
In my own personal situation, I have been a single parent since the day my daughter was born. I know that when it finally came to the point of allowing my daughter to go with her father alone I was wrought with concern. Not because I thought that her father was incapable of caring for her, but simply because I knew I wouldn’t be there should any accidents or mishaps occur. I know that it seems impossible to erase all traces of anxiety when it comes to co-parenting. In many ways it is, but there are measures that you can put in place with your co-parenting partner so you can rest a little bit easier.
Hold a Weekly/Bi-Weekly Parenting “Pow Wow” with your Co-Parenting Partner
It can be all too easy to get caught up in our own personal feelings regarding our co-parenting partner that we forget that our first priority is raising an exceptional human being. Try to set time aside every month with your partner to discuss your child. By creating boundaries of what is an allowable discussion, you can take the time to discuss the changes that have been occurring within your child on a weekly/bi-weekly basis.
They say that time flashes before your eyes when you are raising a child and it’s true. Week by week they make gradual changes in their lives, hitting different milestones and exploring different interests. They create new likes and dislikes and develop different positive and albeit negative behaviors. As a parent, it is our responsibility to make note of these changes and adapt our parenting strategy to the changes happening within our children in real time. By having meetings with your co-parenting partner you can make sure that you are always on the same page when it comes to your overall strategy of raising your child.
Create an Emergency Procedure for Every Contingency
I’ve always believed that it is better to be safe than sorry, pardon the cliche. In moments of crisis, it is all too easy to lose our sense of center. I know that it’s easy to think that our co-parenting partner will know exactly what to do should an emergency happen. They have a phone after all. Why not just use Google to find the answers? But let me say, there is no worse time to be searching for information than in times of stress.
For added security, make an emergency information card for your co-parenting partner. I assure you, it’s much easier to reach into our wallets or our purses for one card with all the information we could ever need than to spend valuable time searching the internet for answers.
Examples of what to include:
- Name and DOB (Yes they should know this but should something happen to your co-parenting partner this information could be helpful should this be found in their wallet or purse.)
- Blood Type
- Pediatricians name, phone number, and address
- Any relevant health insurance policy information
- Known allergies to medication or otherwise
- If your child does have allergies, instructions on how to administer epi-pen or other medications
- Medications and supplements that your child is currently taking
- Poison Control Hotline Phone Number
It’s a given that if there is an emergency that you should call 911 but with this emergency card you can rest easy knowing that your child will receive the proper care that they need. Also, it should help ensure confidence in your co-parenting partner that they will know exactly what they need to do in a time of crisis. If you’re feeling fancy, laminate your card to protect it. I picked up this laminator on Amazon for less than $20. I made up a dozen of these cards to give to anyone who has the privilege of caring for my child.
Make Sure That Your Co-Parenting Partner is First Aid/CPR Certified (And you too!)
You wouldn’t admit your child into a day care that wasn’t First Aid/CPR Certified (at least I hope you wouldn’t) so why should you as parenting partners not get certified? This training saves lives people. Take the time to get this certification so that way you can be ready for anything that life throws at you. To find classes in your area visit the Red Cross Website. If you’ve been certified in the past, they also offer online refresher courses. Also, make sure that both you and your co-parenting partner have first aid kits in both your car and your home. A decent kit will run you about $20 but the piece of mind that it provides is priceless.
And last but certainly not least, I’ve compiled a list of good books to assist you on your co-parenting journey. These are all great books and they cover every aspect of co-parenting that you could ever imagine.
Resource Reading List of Highly Recommended Books for Co-Parents
(For those dealing with a more severe co-parenting situation.)
Well that’s all that I have for today’s post! Are you currently in a co-parenting relationship? How have you dealt with co-parenting anxiety in the past? If you have any other tips that you would like to add to this list, please let me know in the comments below. Until next time Kangas! Stay strong, radiate positivity and love fiercely!